Ruairi Stewart

For 12 years, I lived in an extremely abusive relationship that slowly broke down my confidence, identity, and sense of self. The trauma bond I had with my abuser felt impossible to escape. No matter how much pain I endured, I felt trapped emotionally, mentally, and psychologically. I had convinced myself that this was all life would ever be for me.

Then I met Ruairi.

Working with Ruairi became the turning point in my life.

At a time when I felt completely broken, Ruairi saw strength in me that I could no longer see in myself. He helped me understand the deep impact of trauma and abuse, but more importantly, he helped me believe that my story did not have to end there. In every session, he reminded me that I was not weak, damaged, or beyond saving — I was surviving.

When fear told me I couldn’t leave, Ruairi helped me find courage. When the trauma bond pulled me backwards, he helped me move forward. When years of abuse made me doubt my worth, he reminded me that I deserved peace, safety, love, and freedom.

Leaving after 12 years was the hardest and bravest thing I have ever done. It felt impossible — until it wasn’t. With Ruairi’s guidance, support, and unwavering belief in me, I finally found the strength to choose myself and walk away from the life that was destroying me.

Today, I am no longer just surviving — I am healing, growing, and rebuilding a life I never thought was possible. I wake up with peace instead of fear. I trust myself again. I have my voice back. And for the first time in a very long time, I feel hopeful about my future.

Ruairi was more than a trauma therapist and coach to me. He was the light that guided me out of darkness, the strength behind my escape, and a constant reminder that healing is possible even after years of abuse.

If you are trapped in abuse and feel like you will never get out, please know this: freedom is possible, healing is possible, and your life can begin again.

I came to Ruairi because I struggled with assertiveness, setting boundaries and stress management, mainly within the ongoing conflict with my dad. Over the course of 12 sessions, I feel I have a good understanding. To lead to moving on with this and crack the code for myself in these areas.

I worked with Ruairi over a period of months while trying to understand long-standing patterns around relationships, self-worth, and emotional responses.

The work led to real change, not just insight, but a shift in how I understand myself and how I respond. Before this, I would get caught in the same patterns without realising it. Now, I can step back and choose how I respond, with a much stronger sense of self-trust.

He strikes a rare balance between challenge and support and pushes you
to face difficult truths without ever feeling judged or overwhelmed.
The framework we used has stayed with me and is something I apply in day-to-day life.

I would highly recommend him to anyone serious about making meaningful, lasting change

I’ve been working with Ruairí since February 2025 and found him very easy to talk to from the start. He creates a calm, grounded space and takes detailed notes, which helped me feel understood at depth rather than rushed or skimmed over.

At a time when I couldn’t see the wood from the trees, Ruairí helped me slow things down and find my centre again. He has a strong ability to recognise patterns, ask the right questions, and offer clear, practical guidance without overcomplicating things.

Through our work together, I’ve developed much greater self-awareness, emotional balance, and trust in myself. The clarity and grounding I gained through this process will stay with me long after the therapy.

I am very pleased by the time I spent with Ruairi, and it has helped me a lot. I have made a lot of progress and loved the talks and discussions we had.
I strongly recommend giving him your time.

Ruairi is hands down the best therapist I have ever worked with.
I’ve struggled most of my life with mental health and addiction issues. My drug use was primarily down to my not being able to understand or deal with my thoughts & emotions. It was a continuous cycle of building myself up, then watching it all crumble down around me again.
1 step ahead and 10 steps back, followed by a massive relapse and a lengthy interval of binge drinking and drug use.
I’ve had numerous therapists, and not to say they weren’t good, but Ruairi is on another level. In short, when Ruairi speaks or gives his own interpretation of how I may be thinking or feeling regarding certain situations and experiences, he is on the money every time!
He has helped me map out positive & healthy ways I can deal with life situations, like relationships, grief, insecurities, past trauma, self-regulation, amongst many more.
Every session has been invaluable!
He has helped me so much! It actually blows my mind at times how in tune he is with how I may be feeling or thinking.
I will be forever grateful, and I would highly recommend anyone looking to make long-lasting changes in life and want genuine growth and healing to contact Ruairi.

Ruairi is exceptional at getting to the root of an issue (or issues) to help you see the "whys" of your patterns, not just the patterns themselves. We've had many very interesting conversations that were enabled through mutual trust and respect. His mission is not only to raise your awareness but also to go through de-activation sequences to quiet past traumas and triggers. This truly works, and I've gained much peace and insight from my work with him. He is a gift and I'm thankful to have worked with him.

I stumbled on Ruairi's YouTube channel, right in the midst of the biggest chaos I was going through in my life. I wish I could remember which video I exactly saw, but it spoke to me so clearly, so I took it as a sign and messaged him right away. I'm so glad I did.
Just the simple realisation that my whole body is wired to exist on Fight or Flight mode since I was a child was a big eye opener for me, and the fact that every decision I have made in my life was based on some sort of unrealistic fear. In combination with the hypnosis he does and the protocols I feel like my whole body is more calm now, and I can feel when that fear or anxiety rises, and I just remind myself that I'm safe now, and I can be more present and adequate in heated situations. And that's really big!
My Confidence is back, I'm calmer and secure in the decisions I make. Even the quality of my sleep is much better.
I'm so grateful for Ruairi's hard work and devotion to helping others. He is very compassionate and always knew how to unravel the cacophony in my head.
I hope more people will trust his competence and choose to work with him to better their lives.
Wishing you all the best!

Ruairi was recommended to me by one of his clients. My husband had passed away very suddenly. The trauma surrounding his death had a life-changing effect on me. The grief amplified by the circumstances made me unable to cope with life. After my 1st consultation with Ruairi, I felt able to address the loss and grief. His skills, knowledge and compassion
Are powerful. I'm continuing with my treatments as other areas have come to light that need to be addressed. Thank you, Ruairi! I highly recommend Ruairi as a compassionate, caring
Skilled therapist.

I began working with Ruairi after leaving an abusive relationship & continued working with him over the next few years. I was overwhelmed, lost, and filled with shame about what I’d been through. From our very first session, Ruairi created a space where I felt safe enough to start unpacking what had happened to me—and more importantly, why it happened so I could stop blaming myself. His insight and compassion helped take away the shame I’d been carrying, allowing me to begin reconnecting with friends and family.

Our initial intensive 12-week programme laid the foundation for deeper healing. From there, our work expanded to broader areas of my life—navigating family and friendship dynamics, developing healthier boundaries, and finding a better balance between work and personal life. Ruairi helped me understand my worth and taught me that I don’t have to take everything on at the expense of my own well-being.

Looking back now, it’s hard to put into words just how transformative this experience has been. I came to Ruairi feeling trapped in every sense of the word. There were times when the work was really tough, but it was always worth it. In so many real-life situations, I’ve been able to see just how far I’ve come—and those moments are a direct reflection of the work we did together.

Through our work together, I’ve reclaimed my life. I see myself differently. I believe in my own capabilities again. The growth I’ve experienced isn’t just internal—it shows up every day in how I live, relate, and respond to life’s challenges.

Working with Ruairi has truly changed my life, and I’m endlessly grateful. I am now in a place where I feel I can put what he has taught me into practice on my own with the reassurance of knowing he is always there if I need to touch base or work on something in the future.

The podcast has changed everything for me. I think it helps when it comes from someone like you. It’s easier to feel it more when you know someone who’s had similar experiences. Absolutely. 💯

I think this podcast has truly changed my life. My body has been on constant watch for years and years. Since you popped yourself on media, I've felt so safe and seen — and no word of a lie, it’s changed my life.

I now understand why I’ve been upset, not sleeping, and not eating well. I’m over it all now, as I’ve been doing my healing for two years, especially regarding that last toxic “friend with benefits” situation two years ago — well, not even a true friend, haha.

This podcast has changed everything. Since listening, my fear has gone, and I’ve slept like a log after years of not sleeping. I’m so grateful to you. It’s truly changed everything for the better for me.

Love ❤️ thanks so, so much. And Lorna on the app 🫶 — absolutely made up. Take care 🫶🩷 thank you so much. Love ❤️

Working with Ruairi has been transformative. After enduring an abusive marriage and surviving several traumatic near-death experiences, I felt broken and unsure of myself. The clinic guided me in rebuilding my self-esteem into a stronger, clearer version of who I am. Together we uncovered and identified my triggers and learned how to diffuse them, freeing me from their hold and replacing them with clarity and resilience.

Ruairi’s support helped me establish clear boundaries and step confidently into a lighter, more empowered future. I’m incredibly grateful for this journey, which not only healed old wounds but has also given me the tools to thrive moving forward as the best version of myself. The clinic's impact is profound.